Saying “no” can be enourmously difficult and there are even books to teach people the skill. For example the book by Sarah Knight “F**k No! is a bestseller that provides extensive information on the subject and may have helped many people to become confident in saying “no” However, as difficult as it may be, when … Continue reading Taking “No” For An Answer
Who is that part of you that does things against your own intentions? How come you intend to do one thing and later find yourself doing the opposite? Do you often wonder how or why you act a certain way, failing to understand your intentions? These questions may be just common for anyone, as … Continue reading The Enemy Within. Self-maltreatment In Trauma Survivors.
All children are born very needy and dependent. They simply cannot survive without a responsible adult providing the necessary care. Besides basic needs for food, shelter, clothing and safety, there are emotional needs for attention, validation, support and company. Those lucky babies born into families that expect them and are prepared to look after them … Continue reading Emotional Scars: The Legacy Of Adverse Childhood Experiences
Nigtmares are the most unpleasant and often very persistent symptom of post-traumatic stress. Many people suffer from them to such degree where they fear going to sleep and cannot get a good night rest. While nightmares are a real pain, they are not only a nuisance. In my practice of working with trauma survivors long-term, … Continue reading Nightmares And How You Can Use Them To Guide Your Recovery
Trauma survivors often ponder about the question of forgiveness and find it difficult to resolve. Should one forgive their mother for abandoning them? Should one forgive their father for emotional and physical abuse? Is forgiving one’s parents a necessary part of the recovery process? Will “not forgiving” leave a person with a constant sense of … Continue reading Should I Forgive My Parents? Letting Go And Holding On For Childhood Trauma Survivors.
Ever caught yourself in a cycle of self-blame? Ever felt like procrastinating, under-performing, and then pushing yourself even harder, forcing yourself into doing stuff and failing to keep up with your own demands, then hating yourself, spiraling further into feeling not worthy. Failed projects, failed plans to follow the diet or exercise, failed attempts to … Continue reading Making Friends With Your Self-Critic. A Pathway Towards Higher Self-Esteem.
Survivors of adverse childhood experiences way too often struggle with the confusion about those experiences. As a childhood trauma psychotherapist, particularly in the beginning of the treatment, I see many people who wrestle with reality and narratives around the past events of their lives. They struggle to name what happened, how often, who was involved … Continue reading Making Sense Of Childhood Trauma. Is It About Blaming The Parents?
Childhood trauma survivors often live with what I call “unstable minds”. They suffer from anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Some struggle with personality disorders, some find it hard to respond to normal life challenges and crumble under stress easily. I often hear questions about hopes, possibilities and options for the survivors to heal from childhood trauma. … Continue reading Recovering From Childhood Trauma? Track Your Progress.
I don’t like the word narcissist. It’s a blunt and primitive description of a complex cluster of behaviors and feelings. However, rather than complicating this post with a mouthful of more descriptive terminology (such as “people with narcissistic personality traits”) I will rather settle for one word, and stick to it. So here comes a … Continue reading Narcissists In Therapy
Would you agree that low self-esteem underpins many mental health issues today? When I hear about the rising cases of depression, anxiety, panic attacks, bipolar disorders in the modern world, I wonder how many people suffer form those because they don’t like themselves very much. In my practice I’ve assessed hundreds of clients who tell … Continue reading High Price We Pay For Low Self-esteem