Photo by Bahaa A. Shawqi on Pexels.com Making friends should be easy. Easy, particularly for those of us, who are naturally outgoing, possess some social skills and enjoy people's company. Whether one had a happy or a disturbing childhood, it usually does not play much role in establishing the initial contact with people. The ease … Continue reading Common Relationship Difficulties Of Childhood Trauma Survivors.
Saying “no” can be enourmously difficult and there are even books to teach people the skill. For example the book by Sarah Knight “F**k No! is a bestseller that provides extensive information on the subject and may have helped many people to become confident in saying “no” However, as difficult as it may be, when … Continue reading Taking “No” For An Answer
All children are born very needy and dependent. They simply cannot survive without a responsible adult providing the necessary care. Besides basic needs for food, shelter, clothing and safety, there are emotional needs for attention, validation, support and company. Those lucky babies born into families that expect them and are prepared to look after them … Continue reading Emotional Scars: The Legacy Of Adverse Childhood Experiences
Trauma survivors often ponder about the question of forgiveness and find it difficult to resolve. Should one forgive their mother for abandoning them? Should one forgive their father for emotional and physical abuse? Is forgiving one’s parents a necessary part of the recovery process? Will “not forgiving” leave a person with a constant sense of … Continue reading Should I Forgive My Parents? Letting Go And Holding On For Childhood Trauma Survivors.
Next time you think you are being too demanding, too jealous or too “needy” in your relationship, think again. Are any of your feelings and behaviors happening as a result of your partner's actions? Perhaps you notice telling yourself over and over again that your relationship is secure, that your partner loves you, that you … Continue reading 3 Questions To Ask Your Insecure Self
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